Our turbulent world offers challenging situations for all of us, most especially for our children. These complex life events, from divorce and death to violence and poverty, are negatively affecting our social and emotional health. In schools, we can counteract these effects by helping students develop strong coping and problem-solving skills. In doing so, we can reduce the negative effects of the real life issues that our children face.
Compelling research focusing on both adults and children shows that when we strengthen our emotional awareness and deepen our social skills, we can reduce anxiety and depression. When anxiety and depression are reduced, we are more effective at work, in school, and in life.
As we build our social and emotional skills and strategies, we are able to persevere, to problem-solve, and to negotiate. We build resilience.
We are resilient when we
- understand our own emotions, and with this understanding, we can control them.
- have impulse control, meaning that we first think before we act.
- are realistically optimistic, and we know that things will get better.
- are flexible in thinking, and we see options and alternatives when faced with problems.
- believe in our ability to make it through challenging situations.
- have empathy for others who are handling their own life difficulties.
- know when and how to reach out for help.